FRIENDSHIPS THROUGH THE YEARS
My mum has always said to me ‘A friend is someone who is happy for you when you’re happy & sad for you when you’re sad’
This is so true and sadly at some point in everyone’s life we meet people who are the complete opposite to this. It’s something I’ve lived my life by where friendships are concerned over the years and, I’ve experienced both the best friends I could wish for and the most toxic friends imaginable. However, I don’t regret having these toxic people in my life at the time, they were, as everything in life is, a lesson and it makes you appreciate your really true friends & becoming a better judge of character.
‘In life you will realise that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most important are the ones that bring out the best in you. Those are the ones worth keeping around’
People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely. As we grow older we realise it is less important to have lots of friends and more important to have real ones.
My Childhood friends
I’m lucky to still be best friends with 3 amazing girls who I’ve known since bi
rth. These girls are some of life’s truly wonderful people & we all just want the best for each other. No matter who else comes and goes in life these 3 special ladies are always there for me and even if we haven’t seen each other for a while the conversation just picks up where we left off.
We all have completely different careers which is lovely as its a complete escape from work. I love them with all my heart and I’d do anything for them.
My teenage years were a time of fun and enjoying friendships with lots of people through school and hobbies. I started going out quite young at 15 and always had a big group of friends to go out with. I had a good mix of male & female friends and we all enjoyed growing up together and experiencing life.
Ten years ago one of my very best teenage friends passed away at the age of 33 which affected me very much, we had been friends since we were 13 and then ended up travelling the world dancing on cruise ships together. His death was tragic and I still think of him every day.
I left home at the tender age of 16 to study at the prestigious Laine Theatre Arts in London and quickly became friends with lots of people at college who all shared the same dream to be come a professional performer. I do keep in touch with many of them to this day.
I’ve met and made lots of wonderful friends over the years through travelling who have all really enriched my life and I’ve now got friends all over the world. It’s been lovely to reconnect on holidays when we go to places where friends live and Tony & I have some wonderful friends who we still see quite regularly who live all over the UK, USA, Australia, Canada and many other fabulous places.
This is also where Facebook does have huge benefits as it allows me to easily keep in touch with the many many people I’ve met over the years who live all over the world. There’s no other way I could have kept in touch with all these amazing people and it’s wonderful to see where they are in their lives and see their families etc. I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook but it really does come into its own with friendships around the world.
On moving back to Yorkshire in my early 30’s I reconnected with a lot of old friends, most who I’d stayed in touch with whilst I was away & I also met new friends through my job and the children who I’ve become very close to and consider them to be very special friends. It’s lovely also to see my children being friends with their children and we have some amazing family times with them all.
I have had a couple of extremely toxic friends who caused upset and a lot of hurt a couple of years ago but removing them from my life has been liberating and like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. They don’t deserve any more than one short paragraph of this blog post though!!!! 😂😂
As I’ve got older I think I’m a good judge of character and can sift out the people who only want to befriend you for what you can do for them not for who you are. The biggest lesson you can learn is that it’s far more important to have a few really good, true friends that you trust than a huge group who you can’t. Tony, my mum, dad, brother James and sister-in-law Kate are my best friends in the world though. They are my rocks & I don’t know what I’d do without them.
I consider myself a very lucky girl to have such amazing friends in my life but friendships do require work. We all lead such very busy lives and it’s easy to keep promising to meet up and not actually doing it. I now make a big point of meeting up with my good friends and their families & luckily they do too so we all invest the same care and attention to our friendships. Life is too short and you have to make things happen and make the most of every single day!
‘True friends are like diamonds – bright, beautiful, valuable and always in style’